What drives people to commit to someone?
What makes people to cheat?
What makes people who are cheated , to make a new commitment with the cheater?
I have not found the answers to these questions, because so far i have been living in an idealistic world, where i considered that a commitment once made should not be broken.
Repeated betrayls have forced me to now beleive that appropriate strategy to deal with such cases is to ,"Not attach with anyone,stay detached.It is a good safeguard against the pain".
There is a flipside to it too, "Whats life without taking some risk,...If there is no risk there is no excitement".So if you want to have a piece of some action,stay put,dont back out. Slowly you will learn from the cheater, all the moves and you will be safe.
So crux lies in experiencing detachment, and moving back to a "Detached attachment" where yu stop feeling the pain of detachment.
A very confusing topic,i am glad i tried
ani
Attachment and detachment
The theory of bumps
The USP of my institute is i guess giving BUMPS in the quad(quadrangle area),so let me make an attempt to explain this theory of bumps in brief:
1) BUMPS are given on different occasions,....when its time to celebrate...and also when there is nothing else to do...
-its your b'day,you get bumps
-its not your b'day you get bumps
-you got summer placements...time for bumps
-you got extra large piece of cake,.....bumps
-you did not get placed,...bumps
-its your roommates bday,...bumps
-there is in no other bakra left...bumps (well i never thought that by the time i come back to finish this post i myself would be getting bumps ....)
2) Boys feel that girls never get bumps,....but i would like to assure them that they do...though in close confines of hostel rooms :p (and today even this rule was broken for a change by A-div guys :P)
3) A very interesting thing to note is the psyche of people who give bumps...they are supposed to be friends ....but they turn out to be worse than enemies at times :P...because they are the ones who conspire :)
4) Final ....People who give bumps give a hug (I don't understand the significance of this,I guess people want to make sure that the poor chap who got the bumps will have some mercy when its their turn to hit)....
And the poor chap gets a roasted a$#@ ..... :)...Bumps actually end up setting the a#$% on fire ....you feel like running away from the scene as fast as you can...but all you can do is just rub it gently while giving a smile :P....
well i can write many stories on this topic,...the other day we had a guest lecture by DC and before the guest arrived i guess 4 people got bumps inside the auditorium :)...
enough of this...I am yet to recover from the bumps i got last night :P
Dhongi Baba
Theres this aged professor in my college, my group was supposed to present today,we made a decent presentation,and got random marks for it. Theres this saying "You get what you deserve" and so i had to be satisfied wid my performance.This dhongi baba is all about performing on stage with some set dialogues that he has rehearsed over his entire career, a very respected man that he is,all i expect from this chap is some justified reasoning to his marking style.
Went to see "The departed" awesome movie with the twists in the end :).
Had two tests and a presentation today,we as in our goup decided once again to improve on the presentations...i think i am improving at presentation skills...lets hope i continue doing that...
Topic for todays presentation"Ban on dance bars:a call for greater sensitivity"
Being positive
Its been a while since i wrote my last post,so here it goes.I had my summers process,that's one of the stages that a b-school grad needs to go through.I was selected for the interview process of bnp-paribas.They asked for people who were interested in finance profile,but suddenly for no particular reason they wanted people to market financial products,which meant that they wanted to force us to take up what we did not want.Anyways that is not the issue,the point is :) i once again could not make it.
It has become a routine now
I apply
People wish me
I don't get through the interview process
People start telling me there is something better in store for you, :) and i don't have any choice but to agree.Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagh its damn tuff to keep hoping you know.My friend V keeps telling me dude since you have work experience you will have a hard time getting placed for summers,but companies will run after you during final placements.
Weird logic but that is how it works in a b-school.
Have two presentations tomorrow, i mean today its already 2 am :P.One thing that b-school teaches you is making presentations in a jiffy :).We are so used to it now that we can speak at lengths on topics we have absolutely no clue.
God help the companies who come to pick us for placements :D
ani
