Attachment and detachment

What drives people to commit to someone?
What makes people to cheat?
What makes people who are cheated , to make a new commitment with the cheater?

I have not found the answers to these questions, because so far i have been living in an idealistic world, where i considered that a commitment once made should not be broken.

Repeated betrayls have forced me to now beleive that appropriate strategy to deal with such cases is to ,"Not attach with anyone,stay detached.It is a good safeguard against the pain".

There is a flipside to it too, "Whats life without taking some risk,...If there is no risk there is no excitement".So if you want to have a piece of some action,stay put,dont back out. Slowly you will learn from the cheater, all the moves and you will be safe.

So crux lies in experiencing detachment, and moving back to a "Detached attachment" where yu stop feeling the pain of detachment.

A very confusing topic,i am glad i tried
ani

The theory of bumps

The USP of my institute is i guess giving BUMPS in the quad(quadrangle area),so let me make an attempt to explain this theory of bumps in brief:

1) BUMPS are given on different occasions,....when its time to celebrate...and also when there is nothing else to do...

-its your b'day,you get bumps
-its not your b'day you get bumps
-you got summer placements...time for bumps
-you got extra large piece of cake,.....bumps
-you did not get placed,...bumps
-its your roommates bday,...bumps
-there is in no other bakra left...bumps (well i never thought that by the time i come back to finish this post i myself would be getting bumps ....)

2) Boys feel that girls never get bumps,....but i would like to assure them that they do...though in close confines of hostel rooms :p (and today even this rule was broken for a change by A-div guys :P)

3) A very interesting thing to note is the psyche of people who give bumps...they are supposed to be friends ....but they turn out to be worse than enemies at times :P...because they are the ones who conspire :)

4) Final ....People who give bumps give a hug (I don't understand the significance of this,I guess people want to make sure that the poor chap who got the bumps will have some mercy when its their turn to hit)....
And the poor chap gets a roasted a$#@ ..... :)...Bumps actually end up setting the a#$% on fire ....you feel like running away from the scene as fast as you can...but all you can do is just rub it gently while giving a smile :P....

well i can write many stories on this topic,...the other day we had a guest lecture by DC and before the guest arrived i guess 4 people got bumps inside the auditorium :)...

enough of this...I am yet to recover from the bumps i got last night :P

Dhongi Baba

Theres this aged professor in my college, my group was supposed to present today,we made a decent presentation,and got random marks for it. Theres this saying "You get what you deserve" and so i had to be satisfied wid my performance.This dhongi baba is all about performing on stage with some set dialogues that he has rehearsed over his entire career, a very respected man that he is,all i expect from this chap is some justified reasoning to his marking style.
Went to see "The departed" awesome movie with the twists in the end :).
Had two tests and a presentation today,we as in our goup decided once again to improve on the presentations...i think i am improving at presentation skills...lets hope i continue doing that...

Topic for todays presentation"Ban on dance bars:a call for greater sensitivity"

Being positive

Its been a while since i wrote my last post,so here it goes.I had my summers process,that's one of the stages that a b-school grad needs to go through.I was selected for the interview process of bnp-paribas.They asked for people who were interested in finance profile,but suddenly for no particular reason they wanted people to market financial products,which meant that they wanted to force us to take up what we did not want.Anyways that is not the issue,the point is :) i once again could not make it.

It has become a routine now
I apply
People wish me
I don't get through the interview process
People start telling me there is something better in store for you, :) and i don't have any choice but to agree.Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaagh its damn tuff to keep hoping you know.My friend V keeps telling me dude since you have work experience you will have a hard time getting placed for summers,but companies will run after you during final placements.

Weird logic but that is how it works in a b-school.
Have two presentations tomorrow, i mean today its already 2 am :P.One thing that b-school teaches you is making presentations in a jiffy :).We are so used to it now that we can speak at lengths on topics we have absolutely no clue.

God help the companies who come to pick us for placements :D
ani

Movie review

My group of Mr I,Mr A,Mr H,me,Ms P and Ms S are supposed to do a movie review for our "groups and team effectiveness" subject.We decided on "reservoir dogs" first and then i was the first one from the group to go through the movie.The movie was supposedly a good movie of its time,and a remake was also made in hindi:"Kaante".I did not find the movie as good to be reviewed, and so we decided to do it on:"Remember the Titans".

Amazing movie i must say,and all the members loved watching it,an exemplary movie for depicting team ethics and how leadership works.

Got to work on review now,Ms S is already not feeling well,lets hope she gets fine for working as we need valuable inputs from her as far as theory is concerned.

ani

Love yourself

Went to see the sequel of Dhoom, its an ok movie.Hrithik roshan was good,others were just average,....thanks to my friends who got the tickets for me.
On the research paper front ...well we managed to not write it and hence cancelled the idea at the last moment.Don't know if we will ever be able to write one like this.

Had an interesting discussion with one of our senior on friday,he inspired us to read a lot.I plan to do so,lets see how much is possible.
People around are still having problems with their mates,...just one advice to em

"Love yourself before anyone else"

Its a simple statement but solves lots of complications for you.It has done for many people,and will help many more too.

day 3 paragana

day three of the festival was great end to a nice beginning of the annual event of my college,...there are few things that i would like to contribute and improve next year let us see how much i can do.

Day started with a nice breakfast for all invitees,..and then started the marathon session of speakers.I was expecting for a good presentation from Rakesh Jhunjhunwala, but he was hard pressed for time and had to leave.We clicked some snaps during lunch, had a nice lunch i loved methi paneer.dont know about friends though.Deserts is what i like and gulabjamuns were really good.Enough of food, generally people tend to sleep after lunch in seminars.The speaker just after the lunch however was a man who ensured that we did not doze off,he was Javed ahmad,DIG Mumbai.Amazing speaker i must say,the debate on third bottomline ethics was really good.

Came back home after having missed the bus,with 'I'.Why we missed the bus well we were busy clicking snaps in the hotel lobby,and we go some really nice snaps i must say.

Finally festival is over,and we are back to working on our assignments.

paragana-day2

well today was the second day of our college festival.I didn't enjoy the festival that much...we hardly have any event in the festival...other colleges have lots of events...dearth of sponsors..no IT company sponsoring our events....hardly had any work to do...but still i had to be there....i just hate such kind of work...catch ya later...by the way today around 2 lac students sat to give CAT...hope my friends in hyderabad do well.

did not win but no probs

well i was waiting for quiz result..and my team missed out by just two points...no probs...just need to keep doing more quizzes.I have found that the more quizzes you do the more you learn.So to improve keep participating.

Could not make it to the Finnomenon team, no problem again :D
Indian cricket team has reached South africa,hope they do well this time:P
ani

bday time

bdays here are painful for the bday boy/ and make-up time for girls...well boys have to go for make-up too.So we had bdays of ms D and mr B on 15th...The best part was the chocolate cake,and the only reason the amount of cake on bday boy and girl was less was because the cake was really good...no one wanted to waste the cake you see :) .Ms d looked awesome with chocolate cake on her face and hair.:)
Giving bday bumps in the famous quadrangle is the best part..when all the people around pity the boy who gets bday bumps...at times you feel ..."are these people giving bumps, friends or enemies"...well thats the way it is..and thats the way our juniors coming here are going to celebrate."lord save all bday boys from bumps ...heheheheh"

I have volunteered to work for the logistics team of "paragana" , i hope it would be a good learning experience. Will have to miss few classes for it though, but its ok.

Two kids in hyderabad have broken the partnership record of sachin and kambli :o)..All the best to both of them..these guys scored 721 runs...well thats too much that too in only 40 overs...phew...the other team was bold out for only 21 uns...poor them :P

Have to go and watch a movie now,some indian guy who stayed in america for 8 years has made it...lets see how is it..

ani

waitin is killing

when you have done something right,you have given your hudred percent,..and the results are not declared it starts killing you minute by minute...second by second...jiffy by jiffy....hehehehe...well i guess i exaggerated a bit too much............

quizzards-of-oz please declare the results i am waiting patiently for my share from 1000/ bucks.Well our results of 1st trimester will be out by 21st november...and i guess like me none of my classmates is too eager about it.

The only reason that i see for this is because the talent that we have in our batch,every one is at same footing, theres so much to do, so many assignments, so many projects,..and my favourites...so many competitions to keep you busy all year round,...that you can not concentrate on all the subjects...well this might be my view ,....but i am sure most of my batchmates will agree with me on this.

The executive summary of our b-plan for new social venture is ready,just hope that it gets selected and we get a mentor who can guide us to develop a good b-plan. Well three lectures got cancelled today,and that is the reason why i have the time to write today,which also means that the teachers on vacation are going to spoil our sunday holiday for their lectures :( can you beat that a lecture on holiday...while all your friends in other batches are out watching movies :((

We have a mentor programme at our college...it is the first time that it is being tried out ...a gorup of mentees(thats us) are assigned to a professor(mentor)..I went to see my mentor yesterday,and in a typical Indian style she offered us to have softdrinks , tea...we refused politley..( why doesn't anyone offer samosas... i never refuse samosas :P ).

We spent about half an hour with her talking about ....talking about...talking about...nothing i guess....she really helped us to do nice time pass... :)..what more she asked us to stay in touch ...hhahhahaha..I and daku hasina couldn stop laughin once we came out of her cabin.

Have to make few diagrams of our b-plan..catch you tomorrow
ani

well had a nice time doing quiz yesterday...my team (that is ankit patel and me ) did well to solve i guess 21/25 questions...i am hoping to win a prize today.That means a cool 1000 bucks :P.

I used a lot of sms lingo last time, i dont think that is the right thing to do, so i have decided that i will not use it from now.I am currently working on a business plan for a contest organized by ISB.We are working on a plan that will help the society and also would be self sustainable.

This is one thing that i have always wanted to do, empowering the youth of the rural parts of india so that they can earn their living with dignity.Hope it comes out well.

I came up with one more name today for one my friends, let me check what all do i have to my credit

1) Rating system in engineering
2) Dodo
3) Daku Hasina

well weird as it may sound but the people to whom i give these nick names have started liking it after obvious initial rejections:P.

I need to work on a project for Ethics and Values subject.For that i need to collect some material on the "Israel Palestine conflict".

Well seems i ahve made a decent start at blogging ;).
I am modest i know :D

P.S:I won in the last night game of Spanish chat :D

Lazy bones back to blogging

well long time huh....last time wrote a blog was wen i organized a meet of all hyderabadi ppl who were gonna join the b-school...well lookin back i jus cant stop laughin...wat dreams each one of us had....and wat we are doin here.....

i had never thot that i wud be back to bloggin again...but thanks to one of d new frens i have...after readin that blog i thot i better start writin something.
i know m not tht good at recordin stuff ..but who cares :P...studyin in a b-school does this to you...you start by worryin abt "oh lord, what wud pppl think if i did this/if didn do this" and slowly it changes to..."who the hell cares..you lik it good...u dont like it..so be it..:) "

well we have this really nice teacher teachin macro eco ...and well do i like to say "YA" in her class....i jus love doin that...and i knw how much ppl around me get irritated wenever i say this..

Its festival time for all b-schools and its the time wen all b-scool students start doin wat they are good at

1) googling
2) CCP (Cut -copy -paste)
3)viola the research paper is ready

so much for the original work :P

well m busy doin quizzes...and one of em is ready to roll so m gonna do some quizzin..of course i use google :)...who else has all the answers :D

ciao
ANI